Love Marriage or Arrange Marriage? Your Thoughts

ZEESHAN

ZEESHAN

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I would like to know your thoughts , people who are married or unmarried , what do you say about marriage , Should we get to know the person first or just listen to our parents whatever partner they have chosen.
 
My future husband and I have the right to decide about our marriage. It is our life, our future, and our family. We must learn to trust each other, respects our differences and forgive one another because we are not perfect. We are partners in crime, best friends, soulmates and we should work together and enjoy the rest of our lives in love.
 
marry the one that you really love. Don't let other people even your parents to be the one who will choose on who you will marry because they are not the ones who will be with that person for the rest of their lives. I dont believe on fixed or arranged marriage at all. Everyone has the choice to marry who they want.
 
Love marriage is better. Arrange marriage seems like you are just obliged to marry someone. The essence of being married is that the couple loves each other that is why there is this vow. Time is limited, we must live life to the fullest. I'm sure cupid is doing his job well, we just have to wait.
 
I think that is a decision that you should be allowed to make without the interference of parents. This is because you will be spending the rest of your life with that person and you will have children who will look up to you as their role models. You should therefore get a chance to know each other, have fun and share memories then make that decision if it is truly what you want and need in your future.
 
Arranged marriage only exists in primitive, uncivilized civilizations or countries with a fundementalist religious government. It's immoral and absurd.
 
I think with an arranged marriage, its like you married the person because it was imposed on you and not because you really love the person. In the future maybe you will love the person but it is not like marrying a person because you love him/her and nobody imposed you to do it.
 
Arranged marriages, in theory, are absurd but there have been cases where the victims have been known to have fallen for each other upon first sight. Ideally, it is considered maturity to find someone you love, partner with them, and live your lives as one. We cannot say certainly that, arranged marriages are bad, even though they are very archaic, but they are a necessary part of our human culture. I personally believe in the growth of Love, and so I prefer finding someone, for yourself, who you can't live a day without, and grow your love with.
 
Everyone deserves a chance, deserves freedom and deserves the right to choose whatever they want in their life. It is a God given gift equally distributed to us humans. But sad to say, some are trap in a world where they cannot excercise their own freedom, their own will and right. We, who have all the freedom on earth are so lucky enough. But let us also consider our brothers and sisters who are not granted any freedom at all. Those rights which they should have utilize freely is taken away from them by culture, by tragedy and some traditions.

There are lot of examples where we can relate that freedom. One of which is in marriage. It is important to share this life until we grow old with the one we truly desire and love. But in this aspect, it's sad to say again, that not all can have the right to choose. Yes, mostly can choose who they want to marry and be with for the rest of their lives. But some are unlucky enough not granted that freedom to choose, because they are already under arrange marriage done not by themselves but by their families. I may not be so sure about this customs of some families but I think they do this to preserve family wealth and fortune or with some family beliefs. I'm not criticizing it or agains't with it, i respect it, i just feel pity to the person involve in it. But sometimes arrange marriage do end happily ever after. But sometimes it does not.
 
Love marriage. Marrying the love of your life can be the happiest thing that you can experience. Marriage is a lifetime commitment to your partner. It means that choosing the person that you'll be with for the rest of your life should be the person you love.
 
Many people believe more in what marriage can do with a couple rather than what a couple can do with their marriage. First and foremost, not taking your couple for granted is a priority.
 
I think we should know the person well first. It's good to have advise from our parents as to whom or what type of person should we marry. But it is not wise to let them choose who you are marrying or have you fixed for marriage. Simply because you are the one who will be spending your life with your partner, not them. It is very important to choose the one you love in marriage and that you are willing to give everything for this person. And that you know that this person feels the same way for you
 
It should be love marriage because you can't just marry the one you don't even love. Marriage is for the man and woman who wanted to be as one not by force but because you love each other but if it is the traditional of your clan then it's your decision. It's your life so only you can have the right to decide what will your life be.
 
for me, no one should tell us on who to marry even our parents because marriage is for two people who love each other and it is very sacred. It is not for an arrange marriage. I believe it still exist especially in china Fixed marriage is very common because of their business.
 
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