LethiferousLupus
Legacy Member
I've taken notice lately of a rather casual thing I do habitually. I do not pause before I speak, nor do I articulate my thoughts in my head when interacting with an individual for a brief period of time. I see little reason to, but it seems, society considers this thoughtlessness.
I disagree with such a viewpoint though. You must first have a thought to be thoughtless in society's view, which makes little sense because in reality, thoughtlessness is inapplicable to any but the dead or in a vegetative state. I see not why one should be expected to pause and articulate every piece of interaction they have.
What you say, you mean. It may be ambiguous. How it is taken though, is not up to the person that expresses, but to the expressee, so to speak. One should not be held at fault for the misinterpretation of such by another.
Misinterpretation is natural. As people are created through their heredity, environment, actions and reactions, they can only interpret things with the experiences they have had. Whilst debating semantics, it is slightly applicable to blame them for such because they could have possibly considered the correct interpretation of this. Despite the fact that I am one such person that holds myself to the esteem where I should and try to do such, it is a slim possibility that such is often done, and not all people, not even a small minority, do.
Part of what builds stronger bonds with others is misinterpretation. It causes issues in a relationship of any nature, but overcoming such builds the relationship to be closer and stronger. Similar to a fracture really. When such occurs, the bone heals back stronger, but it can heal crooked if the break/misinterpretation is deep/large enough. People have to overcome problems all the way, or else, they'll always have that kink in their crooked-healed fracture/relationship.
It is often blamed upon the hardship by people that it hinders them. It is the bad thing and they are the victim and they shouldn't have to deal with such. They see only the difficulty of overcoming such, or the pain and unpleasantness of not being able to overcome it. It isn't noted by society in general that people can break past such difficulties to build bigger and better things. This is why it, the misinterpretation, is blamed upon the expressor.
Society is worried about the easy route. They want the quick solution and they want it now. As they grow up, people aren't learning the value of real work and effort. They learn about monotonous daily chores where they go into a grocery store and pack bags of food for 8 hours. They don't learn about real work. The values instilled in people nowadays are focused on success and fame.
So many people, not just young people, are lost. They don't know what they want, so they find something to want. This thing that they find to want is usually what society tells them to want. They find things like families, drugs, careers, fame, popularity, and money. They look back ten or twenty years later on what they have achieved and they see nothing. To be truly happy, a person must have immense value for their own life, and something in their life they find they would die for. Both criteria must be met.
The focus of things, of society, of conscious thought, should be on happiness. Parents shouldn't tell teens how selfish they are and how grateful they should be for the things they have. They should tell teens that they are loved and that they should always do what inspires them, with the feelings and actions to reinforce that. Teens should tell their parents what they feel, and how they think of them.
It isn't lack of communication that is messing up the familial connections, as many seem to think. It's the entire societal mindset of the quick and easy solution. From all of the misinterpretations, people just stop trying. It causes the issues psycho-analysts conjecture about. It's too hard, it isn't easy, so therefore people don't want to do it, and eventually consider it not worth doing.
I disagree with such a viewpoint though. You must first have a thought to be thoughtless in society's view, which makes little sense because in reality, thoughtlessness is inapplicable to any but the dead or in a vegetative state. I see not why one should be expected to pause and articulate every piece of interaction they have.
What you say, you mean. It may be ambiguous. How it is taken though, is not up to the person that expresses, but to the expressee, so to speak. One should not be held at fault for the misinterpretation of such by another.
Misinterpretation is natural. As people are created through their heredity, environment, actions and reactions, they can only interpret things with the experiences they have had. Whilst debating semantics, it is slightly applicable to blame them for such because they could have possibly considered the correct interpretation of this. Despite the fact that I am one such person that holds myself to the esteem where I should and try to do such, it is a slim possibility that such is often done, and not all people, not even a small minority, do.
Part of what builds stronger bonds with others is misinterpretation. It causes issues in a relationship of any nature, but overcoming such builds the relationship to be closer and stronger. Similar to a fracture really. When such occurs, the bone heals back stronger, but it can heal crooked if the break/misinterpretation is deep/large enough. People have to overcome problems all the way, or else, they'll always have that kink in their crooked-healed fracture/relationship.
It is often blamed upon the hardship by people that it hinders them. It is the bad thing and they are the victim and they shouldn't have to deal with such. They see only the difficulty of overcoming such, or the pain and unpleasantness of not being able to overcome it. It isn't noted by society in general that people can break past such difficulties to build bigger and better things. This is why it, the misinterpretation, is blamed upon the expressor.
Society is worried about the easy route. They want the quick solution and they want it now. As they grow up, people aren't learning the value of real work and effort. They learn about monotonous daily chores where they go into a grocery store and pack bags of food for 8 hours. They don't learn about real work. The values instilled in people nowadays are focused on success and fame.
So many people, not just young people, are lost. They don't know what they want, so they find something to want. This thing that they find to want is usually what society tells them to want. They find things like families, drugs, careers, fame, popularity, and money. They look back ten or twenty years later on what they have achieved and they see nothing. To be truly happy, a person must have immense value for their own life, and something in their life they find they would die for. Both criteria must be met.
The focus of things, of society, of conscious thought, should be on happiness. Parents shouldn't tell teens how selfish they are and how grateful they should be for the things they have. They should tell teens that they are loved and that they should always do what inspires them, with the feelings and actions to reinforce that. Teens should tell their parents what they feel, and how they think of them.
It isn't lack of communication that is messing up the familial connections, as many seem to think. It's the entire societal mindset of the quick and easy solution. From all of the misinterpretations, people just stop trying. It causes the issues psycho-analysts conjecture about. It's too hard, it isn't easy, so therefore people don't want to do it, and eventually consider it not worth doing.
